The Platinum Package.

I have decided to write this post for all of my friends, colleagues and clients that have enjoyed the “Platinum Package” concept that I utilize to help people understand relationships. 

Most of you may be sitting and wondering—- “What in the world is the Platinum Package?” Let me explain. When you meet a person initially, you begin to assess the possibility of beginning some form of a relationship. We as people engage in this process both consciously and subconsciously. After spending time with this person you naturally decide if you would like to have them in your life as a friend, or a romantic interest. Once you make this decision to be with this person romantically, your mind and emotions will place this person in a package. 

Package types:

SILVER:

  You’ve established that you have found a connection with this person. You like them, however you aren’t head over heels. You become bored with this person in a matter of months and begin to plan your next relationship. Many of these relationships mirror middle school relationships. 

GOLD: 

You feel fascinated with this person and you really enjoy their company. You spend a lot of your free time with this person, and you tend to form a great connection with them. The both of you become great friends and lusters lol. Most of our romantic relationships fall into this category. Our puppy loves, great relationships (just amazing friends) etc fall into the Gold package. However, many people settle in this category for a variety of reasons: Financially, The “best” fit for now/comfort, Wanting to be compared to their friends, tired of waiting for the real thing, the “one” has settled in another relationship 

Many relationships end with “Gold Packagers” once the realization of non-compatibility occurs or we cannot manage the new person that they have turned into.

PLATINUM:

  This person makes you change the way you view life! Lol. You can’t stop thinking about them. You text this person constantly, love hearing their voice and spending hours talking to them on the phone! You begin to picture your entire life with them. Just their scent makes you crazy! This person can be described as your “Other Half”. The platinum package person causes you to take positive risks and you become the best version of yourself. You quickly fall in love with this person and it increases as time goes on. You actually see and feel Real love. Typically, people have 1 or just a few opportunities to experience the “Platinum Packager” in their lifetime. 

Since we now know the package types, how do we know how much to put into our relationship? This means -How far should you give emotionally, physically and monetarily to each type of person? Let me explain:

Silver Package: 

Emotionally:

You dedicate a “friend” amount of emotion to this person. Try hard to contain your feelings. Do not create fake emotions to please or have false happiness. Enjoy the time you have and break away when it is necessary. 

Physically:

You give hugs, simple kisses and playful fun. Reduce the physical contact that you would typically give to a person that you have real romantic connections with. 

Monetarily:

I would only place in what you plan to get out. Treat this as a friendship where money is concerned. Do not over spend to show off or trap this person. 

Gold Package:

Emotionally:

You spend a lot of time getting to know the “Gold Package” person. Over time feelings are developed and a meaningful connection occurs. You enjoy the energy that you receive. After a period of time (could be months, years etc) you decide to go your separate ways. Try to see the positives in this relationship and leave when it is appropriate to do so. 

Physically:

People interpret the physical side differently. Some people prefer to touch, hug among other things more openly than others. You have to gauge how much you are willing to give oh yourself. I do like to warn others that there should a small amount of affection hidden for the platinum packager. Some people may disagree, but you have to judge that for yourself. People should hold hands, have base line intimacy, and enjoy the person while it lasts.

Monetarily:

When it comes to the gold packager, chances are you’ll spend a lot of time with this person so you should enjoy your time. You can both donate money quick vacations, fun gifts, dinners etc. Many people have investments with this group, however I warn that things may become nasty financially when the relationship ends. My advice would be to use caution with long term financial connections if you do not see a future in the relationship. 

Platinum Package:

Emotionally:

What can possibly be said? Whether you consciously do it or not, all of your love and affection will fall into the “Platinum package.” You can you take the risk with your heart and see where it goes! You will have a amazing connection and will feel secured! Jump on in! 

Physically:

You will show EMOTIONS during your physical acts of touch and quiet time engagements. Passionate hugs and kisses occur when you spend time with this person. You will brush past this person just to remind them how much you enjoy them. The rest of the platinum package I’m sure you can assume... 

Monetarily:

  Most people decide to go “all in” financially with the platinum person! Items such as rings, gifts, vacations, homes, etc (With caution— make sure the other person feels the same way and you’ve decided to be together) will be given freely and happily in these situations! Assess yourself to be sure this is what you want! Remember to talk to your other half and make financial decisions together! 

*Disclaimer- Platinum packages have the potential to end. Relationships are continuous time and effort. Do not assume that everything will always go smoothly! 

To conclude, when you enter into a relationship, try to see where your emotions fall. Place a person in a group and engage with them appropriately. You want to be sure that you do not give “Everything” (emotions, finances, physically) away to everyone you date. If you give out platinum packages to everyone, you may engage in unhealthy relationships and may remain in these relationships longer than you should (the person may become a stalker!!!). Once you find that Platinum Package person (and you’ll know) then really put everything you have into them. Always remain transparent in relationships and express yourself positively.